Award-winning Nigerian dancer and choreographer, Kaffy, has encouraged women and girls to embrace their authentic selves and stop seeking validation from others as the world marks International Women’s Day (IWD) 2026.
The 45-year-old creative entrepreneur, whose real name is Kafayat Shafau, made the call during the International Women’s Day event organised by Wema Bank in Lagos, where she spoke on the importance of personal growth, self-confidence, and identity.
According to Kaffy, while transformation and progress are important, they should not come at the cost of losing one’s identity.
“Transformation is my watchword… transform your environment, but how to do that is not to sacrifice who you are for it,” she said.
She revealed that she once struggled with losing herself while trying to fit expectations, stressing that true change comes when individuals use their authentic selves to influence their environment.
“Use who you are to transform yourself, and the world around you will automatically transform. You don’t need to perform for approval or validation from anyone,” she added.
The Guinness World Record holder also acknowledged the realities many women face while navigating life, noting that even women who are expected to guide younger generations are sometimes still discovering themselves.
“I feel like, where are the women that are supposed to help raise you? I will let you know that we are here and we are also figuring ourselves out,” she said.
Kaffy advised young women and girls to remain open to mentorship and guidance, encouraging them to embrace opportunities when older women attempt to support or guide them.
“When you see a moment where a woman has an opportunity to pour into you, receive it,” she stated.
She also emphasised the importance of forgiveness and understanding, particularly towards women who may not have been able to provide the support expected of them.
“Forgive your mother. Forgive those women who could not show up for you, because they are also trying to survive,” Kaffy said.
Encouraging young women to focus on the future rather than past struggles, the dancer stressed that the next generation carries the responsibility of building a better society.
“It’s not about the pains of the past. You are our future, and I want you to be better than us,” she added.
Kaffy further urged women to prioritise knowledge, emotional healing, courage, and self-belief, noting that these qualities are essential for personal and societal transformation.
“Be informed, empower your mind, heal your heart, be audacious and authentic. No fear — keep moving,” she advised.
International Women’s Day, celebrated annually on March 8, recognises the achievements of women worldwide while advocating for gender equality, empowerment, and opportunities for women and girls.
